Monday, 6 January 2014

SEX AND COLOURS


Do you always think of ways to spice up your relationship? especially when it comes to your sex life? it can get a little boring having sex the same way same place and same techniques, it wont take long before your partner begin to refuse your sexual advances married or not. 

Have you tried discovering what excites your partner? some people like surprise sex something that is not planned, be it a quickie before heading to the office or a lunch break sex it doesn't matter all they need is the surprise.
 while some people it depends on the kind of mood they are in before they consider having sex, when it comes to this you can bring up the spice to change their mood and that's why i am discussing colors today.


.   RED is the color of sex and lust and is often called the most romantic of colors. It is no accident that red is the chosen symbolic color for the Valentine’s Day. 
 Still you must not wait until it valentine to bring in the red, buy her a lingerie in red ask her to size it while you watch, things could get heated from there...... *winks*

  • Pinks have an interesting quality that seems to halt the body’s ability to stay angry.
  • PURPLE is another color which is definitively romantic because of its passionate, unpredictable and quixotic characteristics.
  • Paler , less intense tones of ORANGE such as apricot and peach are often included in the romantic palette, suggesting purity and innocence.
  • BLUES in the romantic palette will be cool and inspired by water.       
So, be you a man you know how to get your partner to the mood you want and for the ladies you know what colors to put on to spice your bedroom time with your man.
Give it a try and see how exciting things turn.
see ya later............ kisses kisses 


Friday, 3 January 2014

Dealing with Infidelity


 

Once a cheater always a cheater. 
Is this statement true?
 let me ask you a question.  If you were in business with a partner, and you discovered your partner was stealing money from the company, would you ever trust him again?  That is what infidelity is like…being in business with an embezzler


 Some authors claim a couple can get past an affair and build a relationship better than before.  
   The writers who claim you can get past an affair say open and honest talk is the key.  There are two problems with that approach. 

 First, the innocent party is not likely to get an honest account from the other party.  If they told you exactly what was on their mind at each stage of the affair, it would end your relationship.


  Second, there is a problem with talk as a cure.  There is a one-sided gain to talk.  The cheater has everything to gain.  All the unfaithful party has to do is what they were supposed to do in the first place.  But their partner loses the idea they had a spouse who loves them more than anyone else.  Their partner gets a lifetime sentence of wondering, What did he tell her?  When will she do it again?
   Talk keeps people engaged.  When the unfaithful party keeps the innocent party talking, they will lower their demands, lower their expectations and lower their resistance.  That is not the same as getting past an affair.
   Remaining together sets up an unpleasant dynamic.  The unfaithful person often tries to level the field by accusing the innocent party of also having affairs.  Even if that doesn't happen, if the innocent one voices doubts about the marriage, the issue becomes not who had an affair, but who "failed to forgive."  The tables are turned on the innocent party.
   When parents lose a child to accident or disease, they never forget that child.  That is what an affair is like.  It is like having a dead child at the center of your marriage.  Every time your spouse is late, where will your thoughts go…  That is the future of your relationship.
   We often say, "Without fidelity, there is no security."  Fidelity is what makes marriage different from any other relationship.  At any time the person who is cheating can start a relationship they would prefer to your marriage.


culled from   -- Wayne & Tamara Mitchell